Letting go: Why holding onto grudges can be damaging

Studies show people who hold grudges have greater levels of cardiovascular trouble, and higher levels of depression and anxiety. Experts say those taking steps towards forgiveness can have better outcomes. Journalist Meredith Lepore admits it: She really can hold a grudge. She says her typical grudge can last five to seven years – or even longer! She felt snubbed when 12 years ago friends didn't give her a bigger role in organizing a bachelorette party. "I don't think I ever planned a bachelorette party after that," Lepore said. "There was too many cooks in the kitchen, and I didn't like that." In her twenties, she took offense when a roommate yelled at her for locking herself out of their apartment.

Is she still made at her? "I would have a drink with her, but I would never call her a friend," Lepore said. But the granddaddy of her many grudges centers around – of all things – a birthday cake back in college: "My parents had sent me a birthday cake. So, I put the birthday cake in the fridge one night, and then the next morning it was gone. Somehow we figured out that a boy had taken it late at night – he was, like, telling people about it, and, like, boasting about it." Asked if she's still